Friday, May 17, 2013

Feel what you feel

This post was inspired by someone I don't even know. They're a friend of a cousin, who I don't even think reads this blog. But I had to get these thoughts down somewhere.

In today's world, I think sometimes we're made to feel like what we feel isn't valid. Or right. Or that it's selfish to feel what we feel.

This is something I strongly disagree with.

I may not agree with how you feel. I may wholeheartedly disagree with how you feel. But that does not mean I think you shouldn't feel that way.

You deserve to feel all your feelings.


My cousin made a comment on Facebook about not looking forward to the pain of labor.

I think that's a valid feeling.

However, one of the comments she got was that she should just be grateful to be able to go through labor because some women can't or don't get to.

First, let me state that I am not saying this woman is wrong.
We should be grateful, those of us who can and get to have children.
We should cherish that role and responsibility.

But,

That does not mean that we don't get to be scared.

That does not mean that I don't get to feel frustrated at my child when he just won't sleep.

That does not mean I shouldn't feel like locking myself in the bathroom for a few minutes just so I can have two minutes of privacy.

That does not mean that I don't have the same right to complain when my body is sore and achy and stretched beyond what I think it should do.


I feel for this woman.

I know how this woman feels.

For a year, I lived that mentality.
Every month causing me to wonder if my body was broken.
Every month wondering why every other woman I saw had a baby and I didn't.

I'm a lucky one.
I got to finally have my baby.


But I think we need to let those around us feel what they feel

As women we need to lift each other up and stop shaming each other into silence.

9 comments:

raisruckus said...

Totally agree! :)

KletingKuning said...

How true! Thanks for inspiring me..nice family by the way :)

Vegas Denial said...
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Rick said...

Clever name for a blog.

Taufik Setiawan said...

i like this,.

hitaakademi said...

thanks for it. Cool! kaya presiyometre deneyi

hitaakademi said...


Ankara'nın en iyi broşür dağıtım şirketi olan
ankara broşür dağıtım hizmette
sinir tanimiyor...

Iphon Hema said...

اذا كنت تعانى عزيزى القارئ من مشكلة تجمع الحمام فى نوافذ منزلك وعلى الاسطح وعلى اسوار الحديقة فقط كل ما عليك هو الاتصال بشركة مكافحة الحمام 0554377096-0566209743 لأننا شركة مكافحة الحمام بالدمام متخصصة فى مجال مكافحة الحمام
ووجود الحمام فى النوافذ يتسبب فى حدوث اضرار كثيرة بجانب الشكل الغير جميل للمكان نجد انها تخلف الريش وبعض من انواع البكتيريا التى تسبب تآكل المبانى الخرسانة حتى تصل الى الحديد المسلح الموجود فى الجدران ويآكل هو الاخر وينتج عن ذلك حلول اضرار جسيمة للمنزل , وليس هذا فقط بل واكثر من ذلك لأن الحمام يتسبب فى وجود الامراض لاصحاب المنزل .
لذلك تقوم شركة الرياض كلين للخدمات المنزلية بتركيب الطارد المعدنى المدبب ناحية الخارج والذى يمنع من وقوف الحمام على اسطح المنازل والنوافذ ويطرده بعيداً نهائياً .
ونضع الطارد المعدنى الوطنى المصنوع من المعدن الخالص الذى يتحمل التغيرات الجوية فلا يصدأ .

ولا يقتصر عملنا على مكافحة الحمام فثقط بل نحن شركة متخصصة فى العديد من الخدمات مثل
• مكافحة جميع انواع الحشرات .
• تنظيف فلل وبيوت وقصور .
• تنظيف جميع انواع المكيفات .
• تنظيف الكنب والمجالس .
• تنظيف السجاد والموكيت .
• تنظيف الستائر والاقمشة .
• نقل العفش مع الفك والتركيب والتغليف والتخزين .
• تسليك المجارى .
• شفط بيارات المياه .
• تنظيف وعزل خزانات المياه .
• رش مبيدات .
• رش دفان .

hitaakademi said...

Ankara'da profesyonel ağda hizmeti
ankara erkek agda hizmette
sinir tanimiyor...