Feel what you feel

This post was inspired by someone I don't even know. They're a friend of a cousin, who I don't even think reads this blog. But I had to get these thoughts down somewhere.

In today's world, I think sometimes we're made to feel like what we feel isn't valid. Or right. Or that it's selfish to feel what we feel.

This is something I strongly disagree with.

I may not agree with how you feel. I may wholeheartedly disagree with how you feel. But that does not mean I think you shouldn't feel that way.

You deserve to feel all your feelings.


My cousin made a comment on Facebook about not looking forward to the pain of labor.

I think that's a valid feeling.

However, one of the comments she got was that she should just be grateful to be able to go through labor because some women can't or don't get to.

First, let me state that I am not saying this woman is wrong.
We should be grateful, those of us who can and get to have children.
We should cherish that role and responsibility.

But,

That does not mean that we don't get to be scared.

That does not mean that I don't get to feel frustrated at my child when he just won't sleep.

That does not mean I shouldn't feel like locking myself in the bathroom for a few minutes just so I can have two minutes of privacy.

That does not mean that I don't have the same right to complain when my body is sore and achy and stretched beyond what I think it should do.


I feel for this woman.

I know how this woman feels.

For a year, I lived that mentality.
Every month causing me to wonder if my body was broken.
Every month wondering why every other woman I saw had a baby and I didn't.

I'm a lucky one.
I got to finally have my baby.


But I think we need to let those around us feel what they feel

As women we need to lift each other up and stop shaming each other into silence.