Sorry for the tons of posts. I had to catch up so when we get back I can post about Fall Break. But I wanted to put one more post up before we leave.
I just recently found out that today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Some of you may skip over this post and that's fine. But I needed to put it out there.
I hate that I have become part of this club. It's like when I got divorced and hated that I belonged to that club. It hurts and people pity you and feel sorry for you and while you need that sometimes, sometimes you wish they didn't have to.
But as I learned after my divorce, sometimes you need to join clubs like this so that you can help others who join later. I'm grateful that I know what this feels like, if only because I can now understand some of the people I'm closest to. And when something like this happens, it brings out other people, who you never knew had experienced this, to comfort you and help you through it. It's an amazing system our Heavenly Father has put in place for us, to mourn with those who mourn and comfort those who stand in need of comfort.
And finally, I am grateful for the blessings that have come from this experience. If I had not lost my baby, then the doctor would not have found the mole, and I might have developed cancer. You never know what might have happened. So for that I say Thank You.
To Our Angel Baby,
Thank you for blessing our lives for those short 13 weeks. Thank you for showing us how excited we are to have a family. Thank you for being the first to visit our family, even for a short time. And thank you for being obedient to Heavenly Father's plan when he said you needed to leave. We don't know when we'll see you again, but we will see you and we will welcome you into our family just as happily as you were welcomed the first time.
Love,
Mom and Dad
I don't want to dwell on this for the rest of my life, but I don't want to forget either. To all those out there who've experienced this, I encourage you not to forget. All babies are special even if you never meet them.
4 comments:
I'm sorry you had to go through that. You have such a good outlook on life to see the positives that have come from something sad. While I haven't been through the loss of a pregnancy, I have grown so much closer to God through my trials with trying to get pregnant. I'm sure you feel the same way I do, I would never ask to go through this, but would never give up what I have learned.
Lissa, you are amazing. Thanks for being willing to share your experiences. It means a lot to me. Keep smiling!
Lissa, Wow I am so glad to call you my friend for all of these years. You are so strong, and I hope that I too can have strength like you do. I really want to come and see you, we need to play. Thanks for sharing your feelings, and for being my amazing friend!
Have you heard of a University study called EAGeR? It's enrolling women who have experienced pregnancy loss(es) and want to try again. My coworker and his wife had an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year, and after enrolling this study, they are expecting twins! If you are interested, you can find the study info at http://www.eagertrial.org/
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